Wait...Where'd You Go?!

You are dating a guy, things are going great (the honeymoon phase of dating) and you are falling fast. Then, after some time, this niggling feeling creeps up on you. Something is off, but you choose to ignore the signs. He’s not spending as much time with you, his texts are more infrequent and/or the tone of his message has shifted, he’s spending more time with his friends, he gets defensive easily, and so on and so forth. Or perhaps you have experienced this only through hearsay (aka your friend who shares her dating woes). Regardless, the man in question has withdrawn, or disappeared.

According to this article that I read, Disappearing Reappearing Man: What To Do (and the good natured advice/lectures from my sister and friends), how you react next is crucial.

Our instinct when we sense him pulling away is to push ourselves closer, which we think effectively re-snares his interest. However, this in fact has the opposite effect. Instead of trying to pull him closer, give him space; pull back completely, taking yourself entirely out of the picture. Not only will this time apart help determine whether or not a future can possibly exist for the two of you, but you will have the time to figure out what you want. You may find that you are no longer interested, or that it is not worth your time and energy to make him a priority.

So check out the article and tell me what you think (it’s not as long as it appears to be…the last half is filled with viewer commentary).